It takes a village to raise a child. If I were to reflect on my journey as a mother, this rings truer than anything else. We all need help. We all need a village. We all need a friend who we can do a drive-by and drop off our kids for our hour while we regain our sanity...
We’ve all experienced the isolation that can come from becoming a mother for the first time. Those feelings of being disconnected from the rest of the world. For mothers, community is our lifeline. Creating a modern village is what makes us happy parents.
I met financial planner, best-selling author (her new book Mindful Money is out now) and founder of Sugar Mamma Canna Campbell many years ago. We actually went to school together, but being in different grades, we never connected. It wasn’t until years later, through a mutual friend, that we really got to know each other. Fast-forward 10 or so years and I couldn’t imagine life without her. We’ve been in the trenches together (we still are) and we’ve seen the best and worst of one another. We’ve watched one another start businesses, write books, have breakdowns over the stress of new motherhood and we’ve leaned on one another constantly. We’ve shared everything from skincare secrets to sleepless nights and more.
She’s also someone I turn to at the beginning of each year to inspire me. Whether it’s the fact that she gets up at 5am to get ahead of the day or that she rarely watches TV, is a minimalist, financially savvy and so much more, she never fails to motivate me to firm up my routine.
So to get motivated and kick off the year, I got together with Canna to talk New Year resolutions (disclaimer: I don’t make them), growing up with Clarins-obsessed mothers, friendship, motherhood and the one product we’re both adding to our skincare regime.
Despite not making New Year resolutions, at the beginning of each year, I think about my priorities and where I want to focus my energy. Health is always my number one priority (I’ve been going to Body Love Pilates in Woollahra for a couple of months now and it has been a game-changer). After attempting to go off sugar, my chocolate addiction is staying put, for now. Prioritising my village – my friends and family – is always another big focus (nothing forces you to prioritise what is important quite like motherhood). Spending time doing things I love – horse riding, reading, swimming in the sea – is also something I’ll prioritise. I want to spend less time on Instagram and more time living my life (instead of looking at others). And finally, as I get older (I’m 38 this year) looking after my skin is more important than ever. I’ve spent many years plying my face with creams, but it’s also now my neck and décolletage that is shouting out for love.
I think it was around the time I turned 30 that I first started to pay attention to anti-ageing ranges. Before then, like many girls in their 20s, I felt like I was invincible. Wrinkles weren’t on my radar. Until suddenly, there they were. Throughout my 30s, I’ve used renowned French beauty brand Clarins. I’d first discovered the brand as a teenager in my mother’s beauty cabinet and have been using it ever since (my mother won’t walk through Duty Free without grabbing me a Clarins serum). One of the things I love most about Clarins is that it’s a brand loved and shared by generations of women.